Check it out: Ali Fedotowsky

There are just too many things that I love about this blog from Ali Fedotowsky. Let's dive in. This is some great insight into why someone gets a rose. I like how she breaks down the facade that every. single. rose. is critical and calculated:

I found it very interesting that Ben got to choose a woman to take on the night portion of the date, and it means a lot that he picked Lindzi. It’s not a rose, but in my opinion it’s much better. Usually roses are given to some people because you don’t want to be harsh and send someone home on a one-on-one date. And sometimes you give a rose on a group date to someone who you haven’t spent that much time with, so you want them to feel better by getting the rose. Believe me, there are hundreds of reasons why roses are given out. If who the roses were given to didn’t get switched up every once in a while, I would have given my group date roses to one of three or four guys every single time. However, giving Lindzi more “time” is much more special, and it shows that he wants to be around her and get to know her better. I’m not sure if this makes sense to you guys, but it makes perfect sense in my head, maybe because I lived through it.

She also explains why Ben's "broke the rules" comment isn't really true:

People often ask me if the girls can go to see Ben whenever they want and the answer is no, they can’t. So in this situation Courtney must have asked a producer if she could see him so they could skinny dip and they allowed it. Ben said she “broke the rules” but trust me, she got permission.

And finally...I know that this is a bit much but I have to inclue it - this is really good insight into Ben's "be careful" comment!

Ben should not have told Emily to “be careful.” That was such a poor choice of words. Emily was simply looking out for him, but she wasn’t doing it or expressing it to him the right way. I know exactly what she’s going through, but after she apologized she shouldn’t have brought it up again because it just wasn’t necessary. As for Ben, I think he’s just getting tired at this point in the show and he doesn’t want to be influenced by others. Guys and girls are different in this regard. Well, I should say that Ben and I are different in this regard. On my season, I wanted the guys to tell me what I wasn’t seeing behind the scenes, but they never really did. It’s like they didn’t want to break the “man code.” However, women tend to feel the need to look out for the men they care about and be vocal about the women they think don’t have good intentions. Women don’t generally think of that as tattling, in my opinion at least. I would be interested to hear what you guys think.